- Sat Apr 23, 2011 6:58 pm
#9780
Alright, look. You're getting advice on the internet, which is iffy, at best.
Go see someone (preferably an adult in an authority position, who's respected by a decent amount of your community) who you trust, and get their help, rather than the advice of a bunch of people, many of whom aren't even old enough to be legally considered an adult, let alone drink, and may or may not have other things going on that make them poor advisers.
That said, my two coals' worth is this:
1. Stay calm. He seems to like you and trust you, and you'll generally do better in dealing with this with a level head. Also, nobody's been hurt yet, so something's going right somewhere, somehow.
2. What I told you at the start. See someone like your school counselor, principal, some police officer you know, favourite teacher, etc.
3. Take what we're telling you with a grain of salt; even me. We don't know all the details, and we're certainly not actually involved, so we can only say so much. As always, nobody has all the answers to life, so you're gonna have to think for yourself.
4. In going to the police, you want to balance not becoming accessory to what, and not being "the kid who got [your neighbor] arrested", which would likely make him mad. You might be able to do so via bringing them in on the ex, or by framing it as concern for him, though you might be better suited doing the latter with his parents, or possibly even him. If you've interacted with him when he's sober, and he seemed alright, that makes this an even stronger possibility, though I have the feeling that it might be a more risky option.
5. Really, this is something that adults should be resolving. I don't see how your parents don't know, but unless you're just REALLY distant, or they've got issues of their own, talk to them, because they're involved here, too.
That's the big stuff. Keep your head on, then go see an adult you trust and respect. No offense to the young (self included), but the older people who are professionals at this sort of thing will have better judgment.
^^^^^^^^^^^Important part^^^^^^^^^^^^
Little things:
Ignore Cats. Sorry, man, but you're a hot-headed young buck, who's cocky because he knows some martial arts. And a bb-gun is the WORST thing you could try in that situation. Unless you get a stupidly lucky shot and manage to kill your attacker, you're only going to make them mad. Which you don't want to do. A stun gun/taser/whatever isn't a bad idea, though. Pocket knives can also be carried a great deal more places than a gun, though you'd probably need some practice to actually depend on one. Pepper spray is, of course, a solid bet, and shouldn't be too hard to acquire, and use in a pinch.
Speaking of guns, while they ARE dangerous, understanding how they work, how to safely handle them, etc. WILL NOT HURT YOU. It is ALWAYS better to have knowledge of potentially dangerous things on the off chance you need it or could someday use it than to wind up in that situation without knowing what to do. Yes, this one is for EVERYBODY. We don't live in the world of H.P. Lovecraft, so knowledge WILL NOT hurt you.
Just stay calm, be careful, see someone you and everyone else KNOWS is not an idiot, and remember: Discretion is the better part of valor. Good luck, dude.
Go see someone (preferably an adult in an authority position, who's respected by a decent amount of your community) who you trust, and get their help, rather than the advice of a bunch of people, many of whom aren't even old enough to be legally considered an adult, let alone drink, and may or may not have other things going on that make them poor advisers.
That said, my two coals' worth is this:
1. Stay calm. He seems to like you and trust you, and you'll generally do better in dealing with this with a level head. Also, nobody's been hurt yet, so something's going right somewhere, somehow.
2. What I told you at the start. See someone like your school counselor, principal, some police officer you know, favourite teacher, etc.
3. Take what we're telling you with a grain of salt; even me. We don't know all the details, and we're certainly not actually involved, so we can only say so much. As always, nobody has all the answers to life, so you're gonna have to think for yourself.
4. In going to the police, you want to balance not becoming accessory to what, and not being "the kid who got [your neighbor] arrested", which would likely make him mad. You might be able to do so via bringing them in on the ex, or by framing it as concern for him, though you might be better suited doing the latter with his parents, or possibly even him. If you've interacted with him when he's sober, and he seemed alright, that makes this an even stronger possibility, though I have the feeling that it might be a more risky option.
5. Really, this is something that adults should be resolving. I don't see how your parents don't know, but unless you're just REALLY distant, or they've got issues of their own, talk to them, because they're involved here, too.
That's the big stuff. Keep your head on, then go see an adult you trust and respect. No offense to the young (self included), but the older people who are professionals at this sort of thing will have better judgment.
^^^^^^^^^^^Important part^^^^^^^^^^^^
Little things:
Ignore Cats. Sorry, man, but you're a hot-headed young buck, who's cocky because he knows some martial arts. And a bb-gun is the WORST thing you could try in that situation. Unless you get a stupidly lucky shot and manage to kill your attacker, you're only going to make them mad. Which you don't want to do. A stun gun/taser/whatever isn't a bad idea, though. Pocket knives can also be carried a great deal more places than a gun, though you'd probably need some practice to actually depend on one. Pepper spray is, of course, a solid bet, and shouldn't be too hard to acquire, and use in a pinch.
Speaking of guns, while they ARE dangerous, understanding how they work, how to safely handle them, etc. WILL NOT HURT YOU. It is ALWAYS better to have knowledge of potentially dangerous things on the off chance you need it or could someday use it than to wind up in that situation without knowing what to do. Yes, this one is for EVERYBODY. We don't live in the world of H.P. Lovecraft, so knowledge WILL NOT hurt you.
Just stay calm, be careful, see someone you and everyone else KNOWS is not an idiot, and remember: Discretion is the better part of valor. Good luck, dude.
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When in doubt, lurk moar.
For the love of everything, CHECK THE DATE ON THAT LAST POST!
STEP 0: CALM DOWN! Being angry won't help you.
